How To Instantly Cause Your Teen To Resist

How To Instantly Cause Your Teen To Resist

A parent’s role is to help guide our kids into becoming thoughtful, self-sufficient, successful adults. We have years of successes, challenges, and failures to share in hopes our kids take our wisdom to heart and act on it. Yet we are often met with eye rolls or hearing statements like “I know mom” or “Times are not like when you were growing up.”  If you think about it, you probably did the same thing, at least occasionally, when your parents did this. I know I did. There is one phrase that...

A Big Mistake Parents Make with Teens

A Big Mistake Parents Make with Teens

One day, I was talking with a dad about the work I do. He said, what you do is great, but I am putting all my money and effort into getting my son, Sam, into the University of Georgia. Hmm, why UGA? He said, because it’s a great school, well known, and it will look good on his resume. You’re right; it is a great school and well known. What is Sam going to major in? The dad said I don’t know…that doesn’t matter right now.  Sam can figure it out once he gets there. Plus, he will be influenced by...

Why College Grads Struggle

Why College Grads Struggle

Someone said to me, "I think we need to stop pressuring kids to pick a path at 18. Take general courses, then find your passion. I was 40 before I finished my degree and determined what I wanted to do.” I agree we don't need to pressure our teens. However, the reality is times are very different than when we went to school.   A friend of mine has a niece, Jill, who was adamant that she wanted to go to school to be a cosmetologist. Jill wouldn’t entertain the idea of anything else. After...

The Future is Figureoutable

The Future is Figureoutable

My friend Amy recently shared with me that she tells her kids, “Everything is figureoutable.” With most things in life, you can figure out a solution. While I knew this on a subconscious level, Amy’s words struck a chord with me. Maybe more so now when we as parents are consistently hit with decisions we have to make. Do we let our kids hang out with friends during the pandemic?Should I let them go to the pool?How are we going to navigate this upcoming school year when there are still...

Are you guiding your teen in the right direction?

Are you guiding your teen in the right direction?

I recently had a worried mom, Ruth, reach out to me. She said “Our daughter Hasana is a junior at UGA. She says she hates her classes and wants to drop out. We want her to get her degree, but we are at a loss on how to help her. We have already invested thousands of dollars into her college education.” As a parent, I felt my stomach turn. No parent wants to hear this from their kid. All the hours and MONEY! spent finding and applying to colleges. You...

How Picking a College is Like Disney+

How Picking a College is Like Disney+

I have been waiting for months for this week to come. The launch of Disney+! Opening the app on my TV felt like I was opening a present on Christmas morning. All the movies that have been in the Disney “vault” were finally at my disposal – Mary Poppins, Dumbo, Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast. OH MY! I was so excited that I posted about it on Facebook. Then guess what happened…. I froze. I was overwhelmed. I couldn’t decide. I spent a good 30 minutes just delving into the app to see what was...

How To Approach College Admissions After the Scandal

How To Approach College Admissions After the Scandal

It’s been a week since the college admissions scandal first made the news. When I first heard about it, I didn’t want to believe it. I thought something can’t be right. I couldn’t imagine actresses like Felicity Huffman and Lori Laughlin would bribe and cheat to get their kids into college. Then I heard about the recordings and what was documented from them.  I realized this was true. Was I shocked this happened? No, but typically parents would give a large donation to a college to ensure...

My Child’s Journey to Find His Ideal College

My Child’s Journey to Find His Ideal College

I am a mom of two boys, Donnie and Thomas. Donnie is a sophomore in high school. Thomas is in 6th grade. I am walking down the same path as many parents of high schoolers in helping Donnie find his ideal college. I thought I would share with you my journey. I have the same hopes and dreams for my kids as you do. We want our children to succeed. We want to feel relieved, assured and confident about our child’s future. We envision a life for them where they are pursuing a college education for a...

How To Make the College Search Process Easy

How To Make the College Search Process Easy

Our family has a New Year’s Eve tradition of making fondue at home. I love this tradition for many reasons. One is the chocolate fondue. The other is that the fondue process forces us to sit, relax, and talk. It’s not a cook, put on the table, eat, and then go our separate ways. It’s a process where you sit together, choose what you want to put in the pot, and then you allow it to cook in the broth for a few minutes. We have steak, chicken, pork, and a variety of veggies - all in bite-sized...

What To Do When Your Child Isn’t “College Material”

What To Do When Your Child Isn’t “College Material”

I am in a Facebook group for my local school district. Parents and teachers post items ranging from promoting school events to asking various questions. While most posts get a good number of comments and likes, there was one that got the most I have ever seen - a total of 178 comments so far and still growing. Here is what the mom posted: “My child has no academic desire. I realize school isn’t their “thing.” What are trades do your kids do? Where do they work? Are they happy?” This mom is not...