Remember when your kids were little, and they were happy to do just about anything for a sticker or a kind word? Now they’re older, and you have to try harder to motivate them. Many parents become frustrated with teens who play video games for hours but avoid homework and chores. The situation can be even more challenging now that COVID-19 limits opportunities for socializing and extracurricular activities. Before you label your teen as lazy, try to understand their perspective. Take a look at these ideas for motivating your teen. Overcoming Obstacles to Motivating Your Teen: Make sleep a priority. Many teens are tired much of the time due to sleep deprivation. For biological reasons, they need about nine hours of rest, and they’re likely to be night owls. That can make it difficult to wake up early for school. Try enforcing consistent bedtimes and limiting screen time at night. Upgrade your diet. Your family’s eating habits could be causing fatigue too. Avoid junk food that is high in unhealthy fats and sugar. Serve balanced meals and nutritious snacks. Fight dehydration by drinking water and eating fruits and vegetables. Test for learning disabilities. Many students struggle due to undiagnosed learning disabilities. Ensure that your child receives the recommended tests. Work with their school to arrange any special accommodations they’ll need in the classroom or through remote learning. Check hearing and vision. If your child’s grades are dropping, they may have trouble seeing the chalkboard or hearing the teacher. Take care of their eyes and ears with regular examinations. Talk about the dangers of listening to loud music. Treat depression and anxiety. Sudden or dramatic increases in listlessness and withdrawal could be symptoms of depression and anxiety. Talk with your family doctor about your concerns. Other Strategies for Motivating Your Teen: Build confidence. Your teen will be more prepared to motivate themself if you boost their confidence and self-esteem. Be generous with praise and help them to recognize their core strengths. Work as a team. Remember that you’re on the same side. Search for common goals that you can pursue together. Negotiate and compromise. On the other hand, your teen will sometimes have different priorities than you. They might be more enthusiastic about completing their term paper if you promise to give them driving lessons over the weekend. Offer choices. Your teen is more likely to cooperate when they can approach tasks in their own way. Let them decide how to clean their room and budget their allowance. Laugh about it. If you have a long-running conflict over dress codes and curfews, humor may dissolve the tension. Share a funny story about something similar that happened during your own teenage years. Lighten up. Find a balance between setting boundaries and exerting excessive pressure. Teens may lose motivation if they feel like your expectations are too high. Praise them for making an effort instead of demanding that they win first prize. Stay calm. Your relationship with your teen matters more than any temporary disagreement. Speak to each other with respect and show compassion as they try to cope with the changes in their development. Take a break if you need to regain your composure. Keep trying. Motivating your teen is an ongoing process. You may need to repeat the same message several times and experiment with different approaches. Focus on overall progress regardless of the occasional setback. As a parent, you can help your child to develop intrinsic motivation and other life skills that they’ll need in order to fulfill their dreams. Your teen wants to do well, and their success depends on your guidance and support. Are you interested in other ways to help your teen and prepare them for the future ahead? Schedule a complimentary strategy session with me here.
My Ideal College provided my daughter with vital information about careers where she could not only succeed, but also thrive because she’d enjoy what she was doing. Ms. Genevish’s individual attention coupled with the time she took to discuss results and what they mean in the real world was so personalized—that’s not something you find in other places. I’d recommend My Ideal College to anyone planning to further their education.
My daughter's one-on-one counseling with Laurie took us from "no clue" to a very viable career choice that we both feel good about! I am so impressed with the process and how specific the results of the assessment are. The confidence that comes from knowing we've found something that matches not only my daughter's interests but also how she thinks and interacts is invaluable! Laurie gave us great insight for our particular situation, which was so helpful for narrowing down options and keeping us from second-guessing everything. We've tried other career exploration programs, but the difference here is the detailed assessment/reports and Laurie's expert input. I highly recommend My Ideal College!
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As a homeschool family we found Laurie's services invaluable when it was time to have our son focus on his plans for the future. We wanted to make the best use of Georgia's Move On When Ready (Dual Enrollment) program. Other career aptitude tests we looked at seemed so generalized and lacking the information we really needed to make an informed decision. The testing and follow up meetings with Laurie helped put our son on the correct path for choosing a college!
Having my daughter work with Laurie was nothing short of amazing. Through Ideal College and the college assessment tool, I was able to get a clear understanding of my daughter's interests, strengths, and weaknesses. This opened the lines of communication for both she and I because I found out what her passion was versus what she was doing as it relates to college. We were able to discuss the results in greater detail and as a result, she changed her major and is now studying in the area that is well suited for her. Laurie's attention to detail was very impressive to me as well; because she went through the report and gave my daughter and I recommendations and resources that we both can use to help us both navigate through this process together. Thank you so much Laurie for your warm and cheerful personality and for providing tools and resources for us as well as other students and parents to identify if college is ideal for them; hence saving both the parent and student from any had aches or financial woes. I would recommend My Ideal College to any family to help them identify what's best decision before going to college.
I have been very pleased with having Laurie work with my son. We agreed that he felt “stuck” because he didn’t have a real feel for what he would do with an associate degree in STEM for a future career path which hampered his ability to find a college match. After he completed the consultation and testing with Laurie, my son was surprised at what his interests were best suited for. The assessment opened his eyes to look at fields and career that he would have never even considered (and honestly didn’t know existed) before. My son and Laurie clicked instantly! My son doesn’t open up very easily to just anyone but Laurie’s expertise and personality, transcended time and space during their Skype calls. I’m grateful for the clarity and personal empowerment that Laurie’s consultation instilled in my son in just a couple of sessions.I have been very pleased with having Laurie work with my son. We agreed that he felt “stuck” because he didn’t have a real feel for what he would do with an associate degree in STEM for a future career path which hampered his ability to find a college match. After he completed the consultation and testing with Laurie, my son was surprised at what his interests were best suited for. The assessment opened his eyes to look at fields and career that he would have never even considered (and honestly didn’t know existed) before. My son and Laurie clicked instantly! My son doesn’t open up very easily to just anyone but Laurie’s expertise and personality, transcended time and space during their Skype calls. I’m grateful for the clarity and personal empowerment that Laurie’s consultation instilled in my son in just a couple of sessions.
Laurie really helps those who aren't sure what they want their future profession to be or those who don't know what they enjoy doing. It really gave me a clearer insight about what types of jobs I would be happy in and do well in. It also helped me to make a definite list of colleges I would enjoy that also had great programs for professions that I would enjoy.