How to help your teenager deal with stress during exam time.

How to Limit Your Teenager’s Stress During Exam Time

It’s the most wonderful time of year, with joyous thoughts of the holidays and decorating, buying just the right presents, parties, getting holiday cards, and final exams for your teenager.

How to help teenagers deal with stress

This time of year can be fun, but it can also be stressful for everyone in the family. We are running around, trying to get things done in time, while balancing work and everyday life demands. Our teenagers are cramming for their final exams in hopes of maintaining their grade A or B, or trying to turn that C into a B. Some kids have the additional stress of preparing for the SAT in a few days.

No matter what college your child wants to attend, grades matter. Even if your child has already been accepted to college, keeping good study habits will help them as they prepare for college.

Here are some tips to help you and your teenager relax during this time:

Get Sleep – We know sleep is important, yet we still tend to sacrifice in order to get stuff done in time for the holidays. If your teenager is like mine, they will stay up watching TV or YouTube videos. For better sleep, set a time to turn off phones, TV, and other electronic devices each evening. Experts recommend 30 minutes of screen-free time prior to going to bed, so allowing 30 minutes of relaxing activities could improve sleep quality. Activities could be taking a shower, reading a book, or drinking a cup of tea. Aromatherapy is another relaxation-inducing helper.  My teenager has a diffuser in his room that helps him fall asleep.

Be Organized – Just like we make to-do lists and organize our decorations, it’s important for your teenager to stay organized. Make sure they are taking notes of class due dates. Have them clean out their backpack. I had my son clean out his during the Thanksgiving break. It’s amazing how much lighter his backpack is now. He also mentioned how much clearer his mind felt after decluttering.

Keep Reading – Even if your teenager says they don’t have homework, encourage them to read every day. Research shows that daily reading will help your child prepare for the work to come in college, improve standardized test scores, and help your child become a better writer. Being a better writer will definitely help in college and even writing that essay for their college application. Seeing you read a book will encourage them.

Teaching your kids good habits now will help them deal with inevitable stress college can bring. Click here to read my article on college stress and how you can help your child.

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3 Out of 4 College Students are Stressed

I saw an article on Facebook this weekend about a study that was recently done. 67,000 college students from over 100 college campuses were surveyed. They found that 3 out of 4 college students are stressed. The article lists various reasons for the stress including:

  • Mounting expectations
  • Evolving self-identify
  • Shock of leaving home for a new place

While going to college will understandably be stressful and you can’t eliminate all your child’s stress, I want to provide guidance on one area that you can act on to help reduce the stress of your high-schooler before and during their years in college.

If you have followed me long enough, you know I talk about how the reason you go to college is to get the education you need for the career that you want. Yet so many kids today still attend college without a clear plan. They pick schools just because their friends are going there, or it’s a well-known school, or it’s not far from home. While those are valid considerations in picking a school, the bottom line is that you still need to graduate with a particular major. You can go in as undecided, but you run the risk of not getting accepted right away into the school once you decide. Not getting in right away means more time in college and more money being spent.

More time + more money = more stress.

Your child could also attend college with a particular major in mind but then realize that it wasn’t what they really wanted to do. This can lead to depression and more stress. I have a friend whose son graduated from GA Tech with honors and then realized after he graduated to get the jobs he really wanted he would have to go back to school. But, he was tired of going to school and wasn’t willing to go back. He had to basically re-think and get re-educated on finding something that he would really like to do.

How can you as a parent help your child avoid these situations that can cause stress?

  • Talk to Your Child – Have conversations around the dinner table about their interests, find out about what YouTube videos they watch, think about the kinds of gifts they ask for. Having these conversations can help your child start thinking about their future and creating a plan. You can download my guide “Learn How Your Child’s Interests Can Lead to Their Ideal College” where I provide more ideas on how to talk to your child.
  • Take an Assessment – Have your child complete an assessment to help them narrow down careers they will truly enjoy. Did you know that there are data and tools available to help match your child’s interests to a great career? Every child I work with tells me they can’t believe how many different careers that are out there that they are likely to enjoy and succeed in.  How can we expect our kids to pick a career when they don’t even know all the options out there?

If you want to help your child reduce their stress by having them take an assessment to narrow their career choices, then contact me at If you want to read more about the study, click here.