What I Have Learned Working with Teenagers

We need to guide our teenagers in planning for college.

Yesterday, I held one of my College and Career Action Planning for Teens Workshop. I always feel such joy when I see a teenager get excited. The look of excitement when they start seeing and planning their path of what they will do after high school.

Let me be real, though. Most kids come to the workshop because their parent said, “You are doing this.” I call these teens a reluctant learner. The parent is frustrated because their child has no idea what they want to do. They want their child to take some initiative and plan for their life after high school.

Many times it’s not because the teenager doesn’t want to plan. Of course, they want to move out of the house and live an independent life. However, they may not know where to start. They are overwhelmed with the amount of information being thrown at them. They may be scared because some of their friends have it all figured out. This can affect their self-esteem, which will impact their motivation.

My teenage son once said to me,

“A life without purpose isn’t a life.”

As parents, we need to help them find their purpose. We need to start working with our teens by their sophomore year in high school. Otherwise, you will always feel like you are behind. This will only cause anxiety and stress for you and your teen. You don’t want to spend these last years of high school being stressed out. You want to enjoy these times with your child before they move out of the house.

Sometimes, teens take guidance better when it comes from someone else. As a parent, I realize this may not be a new revelation to you. The phrase “it takes a village” comes to mind. Especially when it comes to helping your teenager figure out their way for life after high school.  Find other parents and resources that can help you. Check out my resources page on my website. I have different tools to help guide you. You can also schedule a call with me. I am happy to share advice, tips, and resources to help you and your teenager

find their purpose.

Contact me at laurie@myidealcollege.org.  I’d love to hear from you!

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