Do you have this issue with your teenager? You tell them to speak with their teacher to resolve
Meg shared with me an easy strategy you can use to help your child take more initiative when it comes to having conversations with adults.
Institute a back-and-forth journal with your teenager
This simple book, which can be passed back and forth at regular intervals, gives the teenager a chance to talk to the parent in a safe way, as both parties have time to digest what is being said. Often, parents write more at first, but Meg has found much power in helping to bring out the root causes of teens’ challenges, and in this case, it might help coax the child to be a bit more assertive.
This concept could extend to talking to others like their teachers or guidance counselor… if your teenager is not comfortable going to speak with that person, would they be comfortable writing a note at first? This is often a good first step for kids who fear not knowing how to handle what an adult might ask of them in a conversation. While not a substitute for being comfortable with face-to-face interaction, this is often a good starting point.
Meg also shares that role-playing conversations with
a trusted adult can be a wonderful way for teens to gain confidence. It may
sound goofy (and your child will certainly think so), but it is worth trying
just to give them some language to use or some background experience before
they have to enter a conversation or situation when they have to take
Helping your child
learn to take more initiative will serve them well throughout life – in
college, their careers, and in relationships. What tips do you have to help
your child take more initiative? Tell us in the comments below.